While there are "rules" for breaking up with a significant other, I feel like there isn't a right or wrong way to "break up" with a friend. My mom always said I could use some gray area in my life, but I can't help that things are either black or white for me & this applies to friends as well. Either you're a great friend or you're not and often times if you're not, we won't be friends.
Recently, I've gotten an itch to cut a friend out of my life. Not that she's a toxic friend or a horrible friend, but she just isn't cutting it anymore. I'm over her & our friendship. This feeling has been building up for over a year & I am still unsure how to go about it. Serg told me today that he doesn't like giving people the satisfaction of thinking he cares they are shitty friends. I don't think it's the case for me; I do care, & I think she should know that our friendship has expired & why. I think letting it phase out or just ignoring her isn't an option, that would just be awkward. I feel like we're just pretending to be friends right now & there's nothing I can't stand more than being fake. I want to tell her that she doesn't have to text me, or email me, or invite me to outings that I have NO desire to attend (b/c my excuses are getting old). I don't want to be mean or rude or harsh about it, I just think she needs to know. End of story.
So what do you think? How do you "break up" with a friend? Do you tell them? Do you let if phase out? Do I wait & see if my itch to tell her I'm over it will subside? Help!
